Looking at it now it all seems so simple, the rest of the world was black and white but we were in screaming color

This love left a permanent mark

You can hear it in the silence
You can feel it on the way home
You can see it with the lights out
You’re in love, true love

Your kiss, my cheek, I watched you leave. Your smile, my ghost, I fell to my knees. When you’re young you just run, but you come back to what you need

Been losin grip, oh sinking ships, you showed up just in time.

We’re all bored, we’re all so tired of everything. We wait for trains that aren’t coming , we show off our scarlet letters. We’re so young, we play dumb, but we know exactly what we’re doing. We need love but all we want is danger.

I wish you’d come back, wish I never hung up the phone like I did, I wish you knew I’ll never forget you as long as I live,wish you were here right now.

I remember

You got that James dean day dream look in your eye and I got that red lip classic thing that you like

You’re the King, baby, and I’m your Queen

And everyday is like a battle but every night with us is like a dream

So it’s gonna be forever or it’ll go down in flames

All I know is

I want you for worst or for better
I would wait forever and ever
Broke your heart I’ll put it back together
I would wait forever and ever

Things I am not sorry for

All my life I have been told I am too much. What does that even mean, too much? Too much what, too much for you to handle? I’m not a cup a tea darling I’m a shot of tequila, I go down smooth and burn you from the inside out. I’m a wild fire, I’m the girl on fire. I am fickle, deep and intellectual. I do not know what grey is and I sometimes dance around with decisions until I am absolutely sure, but once my decisions are made there is no changing my mind.

One of my favorite quotes I believe efficiently describes me says: “study me as much as you’d like, you will never know me. For I differ a hundred ways from what you see me to be”.

So with that being said:

I am not sorry for wearing my heart on my sleeve. I’m not sorry for being emotional, crying because I’m sad and crying because I am happy. I’m not sorry for being a poet/writer, I write what I see and what I feel. I am not sorry for loving everything and everyone very deeply. I am not sorry for being a woman with curves; I will not hide my body because it makes you uncomfortable. I am not sorry for being an emotional mess after something bad happens in my life. I am not sorry for telling the truth or as others like to say being blunt. I am not sorry for being too giving and too trusting, as I’ve said before I gamble with everything I have. I will not apologize for being positive and or negative; no one can be happy all of the time. I am not sorry for being tall or having short hair. I am not sorry I do not look like a Victoria secret model. I’m not sorry for choosing the squat bar over a real bar. I’m not sorry for reading books, staying in on the weekends and binge watching my favorite TV shows. I am not sorry for believing in love and always wanting matters of the heart to win. I am not sorry for having a sense of humor, the mouth of a sailor, and the maturity of a 16 year old boy. I am not sorry for being responsible, for having a career, for not wanting children and wanting a fairytale kind of love. I am not sorry for being strong and independent, I am not sorry for being weak and needy. I am not sorry for being awkward and uncoordinated. I am not sorry for being an introvert and wanting an extrovert life. I am not sorry for being an optimistic pessimist and a realist all in one.

But I will tell you one thing I am sorry for, I am sorry you refuse to see me in a different light than the one you saw that night, where I was completely terrified and heartbroken over the cards life had dealt me, but anyone who cannot handle me at my worst definitely doesn’t deserve me at my best.

Heartbreak is a national anthem

I believe in love with every living cell in my body. I believe love can and will save you. I believe the most beautiful thing in the world is to love another human being, because in doing so you are the bravest and most selfless human in the world. Their needs becomes your needs and their wants become your wants and you find yourself doing anything you can to see them happy because their happiness is your happiness. Love comes in many different forms. Family, friends, children, and then of course the kind of love you find yourself in with another beautiful soul who’s energy is like a piece of heaven on earth. The kind you warned all your friends about, the kind you thought would never find you, the kind they depict in movies where the guy gets the girl and they live happily ever after. That kind of love will destroy you in such a beautiful way. I just don’t think I’ll ever find it again.

I gave myself to every single man I dated fully. That was my first mistake. You always have to keep a part of yourself to yourself. Don’t make them your whole world because as soon as it’s over that world comes crumbling down and you’re left with nothing but broken pieces to put back together. The foundation you built with that person will never be the same therefore you must make a new one. Imagine how fucken irritating this must be! Having to repeatedly start over and over again each time feeling empty. When does the cycle stop?

I don’t know how to hold back. I fall in love quickly. Not just with anyone, most often times I end up realizing it was lust and I put that person on a pedestal. I always thought if I give myself completely and be the first one to put down my walls the other person will feel comfortable to be in the same vulnerable position as I am. Boy was I wrong. At the end of each relationship I leave knowing I gave it all I got often feeling drained and defeated. They always come back. Every single one of them, I like to think its because of the way I love, I leave an imprint in your heart and soul.

I am a unique individual, I’ve known this, I know it now, and I am now just acknowledging I am not bred from the same cloth as everyone else. Everyone brings something to the table and I just happen to bring my whole deck and play every single card. That’s just the way I gamble with life, and that is the way in which I gamble with love. Love is not a game but everyone turns it into something bigger or less than it is and this is why I don’t think I’ll find love again.

I did once. It was magical. I’ve tried countless times to describe the magnificent feelings I felt for a short period of time. Put all of my past relationships together with every single feeling and time I felt in love and it would not even come close to how I felt with him. And that’s the best way I can describe it, sometimes words are just not enough. God he was amazing though. He was beautiful, he was handsome, he was dreamy, he was everything. His smile made me feel warm inside, his laugh was deep and vibrating, I could listen to him tell me stories of his family or his friends. The way he described people and himself was like having someone read you a book with pictures inside eloquently describing each character and scene. His face has left an imprint on my mind, I see him my dreams almost every night. He accepted and loved me for exactly who I was. His love was the kind of love that makes you see yourself in a completely different light. Every single time with him was like watching fireworks on Fourth of July. In awe of the breathtaking lights in the sky, embraced in lovers arms. He tenderly kissed every single hurt, heartache and pain away. I felt 16 again. Young and in love with not a care in the world, but I kept pulling back thinking this isn’t real and this doesn’t happen in real life. I have scars and wounds so deeply buried, when you’re feeling on top there is always a downfall. What would happen if I let my roller coaster emotions set fire to all of this.

I tried to warn him, I tried to spare him from myself. I’ve always thought of myself as a ticking time bomb. A walking disaster destroying everything in my path. You see, I draw people in with my words, with my looks, with my smile, my sweet demeanor, my intelligence. Im not looks, I’m a feeling. I’m home. I make myself that way because I’ve never had anyone make me feel that way, except for him, and if I could be that for a few people who cross my path, well then maybe the world will be a better place.

Breaking your own heart is worse than having it broken by someone else. I was so afraid, I felt so undeserving, I felt ugly, unworthy and unloveable. All feelings I’ve learned from the past. I know that now but I wish I knew it back then. This year has been a year of tremendous heartache and growing. I have had every right to quit at each single moment but I didn’t. I was in a place where my thoughts were so clouded by all the negativity I created because I was so insecure, I was so broken. I didn’t want to cut him with the shards of my past. I didn’t want any of those demons to touch him. He was everything I’ve ever wanted and I felt at the time it was best to let him go before I destroyed him. To be honest I don’t know what I was feeling or thinking. Everything was so uncertain. I didn’t feel like myself, I didn’t feel like I could give him all of me. I wasn’t happy with who I was or where I had been, I didn’t even know where I was headed. I went to him because I was so lost and confused and before I knew it we were saying goodbye.

I tried to reconcile, but I broke the foundation we laid together. I burned the bridge to nothing. There are no harsh feelings on either end, only heartache. I’m writing this for two things, one: he’s never coming back so I need to let it go, move on? No. You don’t move on from that type of love, you just let it go to the back of your mind and silently relive each moment when your alone. So this will probably the last time I speak of him. Two: don’t be afraid to love. Love unconditionally. Love every single thing in every single moment. Live in the fucken moment. Let others decide their love life but don’t you listen to anyone else about how it should be. You know yourself better than anyone else so decide for yourself what’s it gonna be and stick to that decision. Learn from your past. And most importantly love yourself, give yourself a break, quit being so opinionated about yourself. Don’t be scared. Take a chance, you might be the lucky one.

As for me, if anyone asks, yes I’m taken. I’m taken by myself. After many failed relationships I’m going to invest in the one person I never gave a chance: ME. I’ve apologized for all of my mistakes, I’ve forgiven those who have hurt me and most importantly I have forgiven myself. If you continue to use the past as a guide to your future you’re not living you’re just surviving. Living takes risk but you get to decide what risks you take.

Gore and glory from the past

I come from an abusive past. Without going into detail being sexually abused stripped me of my right to love myself and treat myself with the utmost respect. What everyone else’s opinion of me is, is what I view of myself. You’re too tall, you have a huge forehead, you look better with long hair, you’re fat, you’re too skinny now, you’re too smart, you’re boring. These opinions didn’t even have to be vocal. Past relationships where men ignored me after sleeping with me. Some relationships didn’t really take off and I just ended up in situationships. Being left behind to go with friends or work longer hours, making fun of me to the point of me not knowing if they were serious or kidding.

I don’t know why it has taken me so long to realize the train I’ve been on has taken me down a road I never wanted to be. I had this whole elaborate plan of how my life would be and it constantly changed as I grew older and gained experienced. I wanted to be a veterinarian at the age of 7, a lawyer at 13, and a doctor at the age of 19. But at 15 years old I made the biggest mistake. Maybe it was meant to happen. I started caring about my looks. I started to care if boys paid attention to me and it was my conquest to obtain a boyfriend and be a “normal” teenager.

I was absolutely and stupidly in love with alex. He was my world, we were going to get married, have children and grow old together and no one could tell me differently. I don’t think his mom was too fond of me and I actually don’t blame her. I was sort of a bitch to alex, but he wasn’t exactly the greatest boyfriend either. We were always off and on with him ending it me crying hysterically as though someone had died and then a few hours or days later we would make up and restart the cycle. Finally after three years of break ups and makes up alex snapped. He had opened up a victoria secret credit card for me, and the payment was due but neither of us had money. As we scrambled and brain stormed ideas to come up with the payment we left the mall frustrated and angry with each other. We started arguing, I’m not sure exactly about what but it escalated very quickly. He was screaming and yelling, calling me a bitch saying I ruined his life, how all his friends hated me and told him to break up with me, how he should’ve listened and I would never ever find someone to love me because I was such a horrible person.

He broke me. Even I knew things could never be the same after that. As much as I wanted us to go back to the way things were, we couldn’t. We couldn’t get along, the respect had gone out the window and with it took my heart. He tried to get back together with me two hours later after he calmed down. He said he was sorry and he loved me, but I said maybe this was for the best. I’ve never heard from or spoken to alex since we broke up. Except a week later on my 18th birthday when he had the audacity to ask me if we could still have sex and I was secretly flattered but declined. That’s when I knew the secret to men, sex.

My new found singleness took me on a different path than I had expected. I was scared, lonely, very insecure and didn’t want to leave home in such a fragile state. I didn’t choose to go to college, deciding to take a year off and get myself together. I was jobless and in need of money. I worked at RadioShack for a month before I was let go due to lack of hours but really I had no formal training and was glad to be out of there. I decided to apply to Macy’s. After getting the job I quickly learned that in order to be classified as pretty and worthy by men I had to dress provocatively and wear make up.

I worked in women’s fragrances in a very wealthy area. I envied the women who came in to buy the most expensive perfume and wished I was the wife of the man purchasing the entire collection line. From Thursday to Sunday I partied. I drank like a man and ate cheap fast food. I quickly gained weight and was always hung over only to repeat my bad behavior over and over again.

After alex I found comfort in sleeping with an old boyfriend whom I shared my first kiss with. Jaime was gorgeous, light skinned, long light brown/blondish curly hair, light brown eyes and smelled like chrome cologne. He was in love with me back in 7th grade and I often wondered if I hadn’t cared what anyone thought of him and stood with him where would life have taken me. I fell in love with him at 18, but he had a girlfriend who he claimed to be the one. Yet I didn’t understand why he kept calling me to sleep with him.

There was a boy named felipe. We met in geometry class while I was 15 and he was 17. He was a senior, I was a sophomore. I had the biggest crush on him as well as every other girl at school. He was charming tall dark and handsome and a killer smile to make even the teachers melt. He was the John tucker of Woodrow Wilson high school. At least I thought so, I would let him copy my homework and sometimes pretend not to understand the work just so he’d talk to me. He would write anniversary letters to his girlfriend everything month telling her how special she was and how much he loved her. Later on I heard stories he was fucking other girls at our school and loved bigger girls. Little did I know 2005 wouldn’t be the last year I would encounter felipe.

It’s December 2007 it’s cold and raining. I’m coming home early from a party. I’m a little buzzed and I’m giddy. Felipe and I have been texting. He found me on myspace and messaged me. To my surprise he likes me. He said he always watched me get on the dash to school. He always thought I was pretty and thinks I have a beautiful smile. He asked me to meet him. Felipe was like a fucken celebrity to me, I am aware now I put him on that pedestal.

You always know when things are gonna go wrong but you hold on to this hope that this time is different. I deserved the good looking guy, the marine who sacrificed his freedom for ours, who was smart and funny, charismatic and all around sweet guy. I didn’t care if anyone else believed me, felipe wanted me and I wanted him. The next five years would ultimately break me in ways I never knew a person could be broken. Each time I went back for more thinking my sweet demeanor would change his ways and he would finally make me his. I lost friends because of him, I lost my family for a bit because of him. He made me question myself from the inside out. After he was done with me I was shattered. Words can’t describe how utterly broken I was. And up to even now I am emotionally scarred from him.

Here’s the story of Felipe, most people don’t know we dated because that’s the way he wanted it and I of course being so young and in lust let him decide everything.

She sits alone with wondering eyes, a book to distract her mind she is never really present always thinking of her future where it may take her at each opportunity, each yes and each no. She isn’t a risk taker although she used to be, alcohol always helped her get rid of the angel inside and the demon came out to play. She thought she had control over her men with it, dominate and submissive she was, depending on the partner. Sometimes she had to take charge and others she didn’t need to and all of the time she didn’t want to. Deep down inside she tried to find herself in liquor bottles, in men, in the mood swings of her mother, in the absence of her father, she was a lost girl. Until one day, a hot day in September would change the course of her life forever. Three strikes should’ve killed the poor girl of a broken heart or drove her to do it herself, but she toughed it out, she was always so strong. Where that strength comes from one doesn’t know. It’s like with each heart ache and every bad experience she grows stronger never letting it determine her but making her grow. She fell to the floor on her knees that day. You could hear the bones crack on the ground almost as if in sync with her heart smashing into pieces. Her best friend was saying the words but she couldn’t hear her. She was gone, whoever that girl was, died. Right there at 630 Raymond Street. It was the catalyst which set in motion a fire to burn brightly inside her chest where here heart once beat.

Running became her therapy. Every foot step there was a tear. The poor girl sobbed everyday on that run down poplar blvd. she went late at night when the sun was setting so no one would see her cry. When fall and winter came around she wore hoodies to hide her face. Most people would just mistake it for sweat anyhow. Running was the only thing which made sense, the only control she had. She could control her breathing, her feet listened when she commanded they push forward even when her legs burned and each breath became shorter and harder. Nothing was impossible . She was going to get fit and he would regret every thing he ever did or said to her. His indiscretions were the fuel for her but that silly girl didn’t realize what you do out of angry only despises you and sucks the life out of every action , sucks up the joy and leaves you hanging out to dry. No matter what she did it wasn’t good enough, at least not for him.

She saw him a year later, this was the moment she had been waiting for, of course he was late. Notorious for his tardiness amongst other things. But she waited as she had done so many times before for him. At the end when she learned of his discretion she’d get drunk and call him to pick her up where ever she was and he’d come. He’d yell at her Everytime saying “i hate seeing you like this” and she’d whip her head back, laugh and retort “it’s all your fault I drink, I don’t want to feel anything, you fucken got her pregnant and I was just your little whore the entire time”. Thinking back to those times brings an anxious feeling she feels inside the hole where he heart used to be. She can laugh about it now but it’s still a dark place she would rather not go.

There he is driving in some silver car, he says to her what’s up flaca. She laughs, it’s a funny thing to hear from him. He never complimented her let alone ever call her skinny. She gets in, aside from the weight gain he looks the same but something feels different. He’s grown his beard which makes him look ten years older, his eyes reveal sadness but his smile is trying to convince her otherwise. She no longer felt bound to him, no longer felt this piercing desire for him, or his touch. It was an unimaginable feeling she had for him, it wasn’t love, more like lust. She would’ve done anything for him, he’d ask her to jump she’d respond how high. It wasn’t healthy and she didn’t even know when it became this way and now she wasn’t even aware when the feelings disappeared.

They hiked up echo mountain, it had been two or three years since she had been here. Couldn’t even make it up the first mile, huffing and puffing, embarrassed of herself she quit before she even began. But this time no matter how hard it was she wasn’t quitting, no matter how difficult it was to breathe or how badly her legs burned from the incline nothing and no one would stand in her way of reaching the top of this mountain. Funny how life changes things. When you are stronger, faster, smarter than someone and instead of helping them up you keep them down. You use them as leverage to help yourself climb higher. But sooner or later if they too seek the desire to climb up higher they will surpass you. Serving his country made him proud, made him feel above a civilian. He was stronger, faster, and smarter. Serving your country you only get back a weak body. The knee and back of a 60 year old man. And how a simple civilian could surpass him up this mountain embarrassed him. How he taunted and broke this girls heart, her spirit, and how she put back the pieces and found herself becoming the woman he had always known her to be. The woman he claimed to love and had helped her become.

Instead of hating him she thanked him. She listed every single thing he did to her and thanked him for it all. The emotional and physical abuse, The constant roller coaster of emotions, the devastating heartache she felt, and the death of her when she learned the truth. He didn’t know how to take it, he thought she was being sarcastic but there was no sarcasm in her voice, not a hint of humor or a smile. A serious demeanor and a few convincing reassurances that she meant her thank you’s left him appalled.

And that is when she freed herself from his grasp and left him to clean up the mess.

What they don’t tell you about weightloss

Things they don’t tell you about weightloss. Losing weight first of all is mentally challenging, but once you look at the smaller picture instead of the grand scheme of it all, you get hustling. Thoughts such as, “Oh my goodness my pants don’t fit they are sliding off, time to go down a size hell yes!!!” “Holy shit look at my face, my double chin is disappearing”, or hey I ran a whole mile without stopping, come at me bro!!!! Sign me up for the marathon”! But once you start to lose major numbers you’re gonna get to a point where nothing is good enough. Why? Because one small fucken detail will derail you from the big picture. I’ll use myself as an example. I look like my former self could’ve swallowed my current self whole and probably still shove a whole pizza and coke like nobody’s business. Now My collar bones show, I’m down to a size 9/10 and medium blouses. The scale says about 180. My endurance is at top peak, I can lift you and your mom (just kidding,maybe). I can perform a proper push up, squat, and deadlift. I’ve lost 150lbs, forever gone, bye Felicia! But none of it matters. Why? Because I still have a stomach. No matter what I do that pudgy mother fucker doesn’t want to go away. I have stretch marks that make maps look easy to read, I have loose skin in my thighs, my arms and my stomach. There you go again stomach! I’ve lost my boobs and I don’t look like a Victoria secret model or any of the women on Instagram. The fuck? I sacrifice eating pizza every night for this??? Oh and that’s not the only thing. Physically your body will never look the same. If you’ve lost more than 60lbs, you’re gonna have loose skin, it’s inevitable. Yes weightlifting will help but it’s still gonna be there like the memory of that awful first kiss or your annoying family members at birthday parties and that one co worker who won’t stop biting her nails. Seriously? But ya know I can deal with that the weights gone and so who cares if I have tiger stripes and extra skin, we can share, we can live together in harmony. Except someone forgot to tell my brain that I lost 150lbs and I no longer look the way I feel. When you first think of losing weight you’re like fuck yes I’m gonna rock that bikini at the beach and I’m gonna make so and so jealous and Kim Kardashian is gonna need to make a new sex tape because I’m gonna give that bitch a run for her money! And than bam weights gone and your mind fucks with you like the nerd in high school everybody made fun because they could. Self confidence, what is that? I do not feel confident at all, I wouldn’t take my clothes off if you paid me. New relationships? Fuck those I’ll be forever alone with my fur children because well because fuck that I don’t want to be judged. Unless you date someone who has gone through the same thing as you but in the world we live in, people suck! Self confidence is virtually non existent. Your mind never catches up to your body. When I look at pictures of myself now I’m like really? That’s me? But I’m skinny! Why do I feel so fat? Or the opposite. Omg my stomach is huge ! I should’ve never worn that. Thanks brain for making me think I looked cute in that dress when really I looked like shamus sister 😒. I am terrified of talking to others because when I was overweight I would think that’s all anyone could focus on was my weight. When I see other girls at the bar I feel like I don’t even compare to them. They are so gorgeous with beautiful bodies and I’m just this blob of loose skin and stretch marks, so when invitations are given I usually don’t go. It’s not because I don’t want to, it’s because I’m so insecure and think that everyone will be staring at me and noticing all my flaws and I’m too tired to act perfect so fuck that I’ll stay home and read. It’s a never ending cycle. Self love is non existent, I don’t want to show my body to anyone. I don’t care how beautiful you say I look I am a hideous creature of the night. Look at how ridiculous that sounds! I hear it from girls all the time. I listen to myself all of the time. I’ve seen women wear things that makes me think well if she’s gonna wear that then what the fuck am I worried about? Weightloss isn’t the answer to your unhappiness. I thought men didn’t pay attention to me because I was overweight, now what’s the answer because I still don’t
get any attention. I thought losing weight had all the answers to my unhappiness but it’s not the fucken answer I repeat you vain mother fucker weightloss is not the answer. You have to love yourselff